I’m about to launch an IFS Consultation and Practice Group (More My Self), which will include therapists from within our group practice...

Internal Family Systems defines our human psychology - our internal system - as constructed of multiple parts. Parts of us hold burdens...

Loosening the boundaries of our concept of normalness changes everything. We all become blank canvases, adorned with unique colors that...

I love men. I love working with men in therapy because they tend to be really receptive and engaged. They take in new ideas and - if the...

You know that feeling when you get “triggered?” When someone you thought cared about you suddenly acts like a complete jerk? “Why on...

Here is a visual depiction of how our repetitive conflicts with our partners are always informed by our own early wounding and exiled...

My Dad died unexpectedly in September of 2020. This is our last photo together, from a FaceTime call a few days before he died in Mexico....

Am I queer enough? Trans enough? Nonbinary enough? Gay enough? Bi enough? Pan enough? Am I a woman? What does that even mean? Am I a man?...

Telephone. Hot potato. Musical chairs. Remember playing these fun games as a kid? Games are playful ways for humans to experiment with...

The darkest corners of our psyches are not inviting. Those crevices where we've stuffed all our secret feelings of worthlessness, shame,...

As the COVID-19 pandemic begins to wane and things start to open up more, I’ve been thinking a lot about not wanting to go back to the...

Shame and fear seem to be at the root of so many of our behaviors and choices. We're programmed to hide from shame and react protectively...

(This blog was created to be a tongue-in-cheek accompaniment to a talk we are giving on "Using Internal Family Systems to Heal...

“Allow yourself to be held by something greater.” - Matt Licata A part of me is spiraling in grief. Inside, there is so much alarm as the...

Most of our day is spent reacting. Events and interactions happen outside of us and inside of us, and we have reactions to those things....

For those of us who are privileged to not have immediate survival concerns, what is it that we’re struggling with? What causes us to...

Growing up in an alcoholic family, I was encouraged to not notice, speak to or feel my pain. And my pain was immense and unbearable....

Did you feel like you belonged in your family as a child? Do you feel seen and understood and accepted as you walk through the world?...

At your core there is innocence and openness, a spirited soul that wants connection, acceptance and safety. There is not one thing wrong...

My thesis: to be anti-racist, we need to get friendly with our most shameful feelings. To allow ourselves to see and acknowledge racism...